To The Women Fallen Between The Cracks Of Over Correction

pornyplothead:

Shout out to the women who were told we were lesser for relying on a man. The women who tried our best to be successful and independent only to have our bodies and/or minds shut down and become barely functional on us. To the women who had to drop out of school, quit our jobs, become isolated and housebound and let our spouses become our caregivers. Shout out to the women who feel like we’ve failed our gender by being disabled, by being utterly dependent, for insisting on agency and autonomy on behalf of women when we cannot exercise much of it for ourselves, not because of gender oppression but because of our own bodies and minds refuse to co-operate.

Shout out to the disabled and neurodivergent women who feel like we don’t belong in feminism because there are no spaces that accept the tired, the weak, the vulnerable and the dependent. Who feel lost in this narrative that celebrates strengths we don’t have, encourages an independence and autonomy that the disabled cannot afford and condescends to us for our necessary dependency on our partners. Shout out to the women who engage in feminism simply to ensure that our limitations are not used against the rest of our sisters. Shout out to the mobility-impaired women who are only able to engage in dialogue and activism via a keyboard and an internet connection and are then called armchair activists.

Shout out to the dependent women who cannot see themselves in any Strong Female CharactersTM. To the women who are derided and pitied for being able to provide only emotional labour, or domestic labour, or being unable to provide any labour at all. To the neurodivergent women who perfectly slot into the stereotype of The Hysterical Female, or The Promiscuous Female or The Attention Whore or the Oversensitive Crying Girl and hate ourselves for it. To the neurodivergent and disabled women who find comfort and purpose in gender-conforming duties and roles. To the women who cannot rebel, who are too tired to rebel, too busy surviving to rebel, who spend our lives searching for permission to be seen as weak and tired and scared and helpless as we feel without being judged for it.

Shout out to the women who love the people who feel less like our partners and more our caregivers. To the women who feel like we have condemned our spouses and partners to burden and misery by tying our lives to theirs. To the women who struggle against the great well of anger and resentment against feminism, against abled women, against neurotypical women, against our families, against our communities, our children, our spouses and caregivers, because we feel like we have no right to be angry at them while mooching off their income and patience.

Shout out to the women who count every day we keep breathing an accomplishment, in a world where that doesn’t seem to be a very big deal to anybody else. Because we didnt stay in school, we didn’t earn money, we didn’t really DO anything but keep breathing when the entire world seems to prefer that we stop.

fuckyeahwomen:

With millions of participants in all seven continents, the Women’s March has to be the largest coordinated global protest in history. Women did that! Specifically, Tamika D. Mallory, Carmen Perez, and Linda Sarsour–a black woman, a Latina woman, and a Palestinian Muslim woman–organized this and made it a huge success. Women of color DID THAT

24yn:

i will not support your feminism if it doesn’t include black, latinx, transgender, disabled, muslim, jewish, lgbtq+ women

Being a woman is hard af.

notyourmamita:

No boobs? Damn. Grow some. Boobs? Cover yourself. You’re so vulgar. No ass? Everyone will laugh at you for it. Ass? Well, better cover yourself cause you don’t wanna draw attention to that booty, right? Short? You need to wear those heels. Tall? Damn. You cannot be taller than men. Also, never wear heels. Skinny? Gotta gain weigh cause no one likes bones. Chubby? Eat healthy!!!! Nobody likes fat bitches. You like makeup? Hell no. Taking you swimming on the first date. No makeup? Please, take care of yourself. Don’t be so lazy.

We, women, are constantly shamed for everything so we, as well, might do whatever we want.

letzplaymurder:

jane austen was so lit because she wrote about men the way men typically write about women i.e. her stories just centered around women and men were only there for the sake of women, and her books could have been all bitter and sad about the state of women in that century, but instead they’re sweet honest observational stories of friendship, family and love *sighs* what a lady i am sorry i ever doubted you cos I was bored in high school

wingsdestiel:

beestiels:

“see we don’t want kisses and sex for destiel” “we don’t even need romantic things like sex and kissing to be shown for destiel”

ok sit down son and don’t speak for all destiel shippers

also, it is a direct root of homophobia and biphobia in television when we have to justify our non-het ships by saying “we don’t need sex/kissing!!!!” to make us seem “better” than “other shippers” as if hetero couples aren’t fucking and making out on tv all the time. it’s an insinuation that sex and kissing between het couples is fine, but between not-het couples/ships on tv somehow becomes “gross”

i’m sick of posts like this trying to speak for all shippers and also lgbt+ fans. they are annoying and reinforce homophobic/biphobic double standards and don’t actually help anything. because het couples can have sex and make out and have their relationship not be all about that, but rather something that adds to it, the same should be able to go for non-het chars/couples

i can want to destiel to become canon for deep and profound and meaningful reasons AND still have a desire for kissing and/or sex to be at least hinted at as something that goes on between them (especially when lord knows this show has depicted enough male/female sex and makeouts) and it doesn’t lessen how valid the ship and my shipping of it is. and quite frankly if they showed something like dean and cas at least just kissing it would mean a lot for me, as a bisexual woman, as something that happened between my fave characters/couples on my fave show

so don’t speak for all of us when quite frankly kissing/sex at least being hinted at could, in fact, mean a lot for some destiel shippers and it doesn’t lessen the validity or seriousness of our ship, and acting like “not needing kisses or sex” makes it high and mighty is gross and a double standard and if anything, just placates lingering homophobia/biphobia

i am salty good bye

All of the above.

Also, when people say “we don’t want the show to have romance in it” they’re really saying “I see romance as something that will inherently devalue a show” which is really misogynistic. Romantic elements in media like books, movies, and tv shows are thought of as feminine (thus we have the term “chick flick”) and are constantly mocked.

We’ve talked about this like 5000 times, even if spn were to have destiel kisses in it, it would still most definitely have decapitation and gore and death. Don’t worry. But just the fact that we have to constantly talk about that seems like some people are really afraid of being accused of watching a show that’s not “hardcore” enough.

penicillium-pusher:

My younger self would be so blown away by how feminist and queer I am

unapologeticdyke:

equality is “men can wear makeup toooo!!!!!!!!” liberation is “women should not have to wear makeup. women should be able to be in their natural state and feel safe.”