The problem with being introverted is that there is no polite way to say “I love you, but I’m tired of being with you right now.”
This post makes me so sad because I remember when my husband felt he couldn’t say this to me. Because society had pounded it into his head so thoroughly that it ‘wasn’t polite to ask for alone time’ that he felt he wasn’t allowed to. And he was SO MISERABLE. I, being an extrovert myself, had no idea. It wasn’t until, after lots of trial and error and lots of fighting and crying that we finally figured it out.
Saying ‘I love you, but I’m tired of being around people right now. I need time to recharge.’ is NOT IMPOLITE. If someone you say it to thinks it is? Then they need to learn what being introverted means. You can try to help them understand that you need to recharge your batteries. If they refuse to accept it… well, then, you’re never going to work anyways. Because you should NEVER sacrifice your mental health just to keep from hurting someone else’s feelings.
You can ask for alone time politely. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s not being mean. It’s not being rude. Explain that you need time to recharge. That you just need to be alone with yourself for a while. It’s so important. And the people who truly love you in return will learn and adapt as much as you do.
This. This. This.
1-2 This convo is really interesting becasue it brings up something I always wondered. I thought being extroverted and introverted relates to the feelings of being engersized by around people or without people. I'm introverted not because I'm socially anxious but because being around people too long mentally exhauts me. and being by this definiton both Dean and Cas are extroverted imo (if thats what those words mean lol). Dean needs people to the point where it's unhealty and depentend he *cant*
2-2 be alone. Cas imo does gravitate towards surronding himself with people too the angels all seem to be telepatically linked (which would be an introverted persons nightmare) and cas remarks upon his loss off being “truely alone” in 9x03. Cas never seems to enjoy being alone, like an interovert needs to re-energize, but wants to surround himself with the people that he cares about. idk tho if this is correct
(about this)
Yes, being introverted means you’re energised away from people (or perhaps with one close friend), being extroverted means you’re energised with people around. But with regards to Dean, being an extrovert and needing people around to stay safe and sane are completely different things.
Let’s start with Cas, though.
8 years ago 03 Jan 2015 ☆ 11 notes ·