It is Easier to Build Strong Children than to Repair Broken Men: Dean Winchester and Early Years Education

lookatthesefreakinghipsters:

(Author’s notes and research references at the end)

Research has demonstrated that the early years of life (0 to 6 years) are some of the most vital for the development of a person’s brain.  It is the period of time where brains are the most plastic, with an explosion of connections being made between neurons as young children acquire motor skills, language, develop emotional responses, and begin to understand human behaviour and society.  For Dean Winchester, the positive early years education he had prior to his mother’s death actually worked against him once he lost his mother and was propelled into a hunter’s lifestyle.  His exceptionally high level of social and emotional understanding disadvantaged him, resulting in years of emotional difficulties.  Additionally, due to the age which Dean lost his mother and was plunged into hunting, it had a serious impact upon his grasp of gender roles. 

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#Dean Winchester #Mary Winchester #childhood #meta #Dean and MAry #John Winchester #abuse cw #character death cw #I have so many Dean feels right now #every day that passes is a day further away from John and that's excellent #*

soulslookingforhome:

apunkassholyroller:

violue:

I saw a post with this picture on Misha’s tag. The post has over 300 notes and most of them are not people pointing out the fact that this isn’t Misha… which means people probably think it’s him…  which means this damn picture is going to start showing in Misha picture posts where people are posting their favorite pictures of him, alongside that photo of Johnny Knoxville sleeping that for some reason got tagged as Misha.

This isn’t Misha. I don’t know who the hell this is, other than a guy with a slightly similar mouth, a different nose, and aviators.

Please do me a solid and reblog this. If you’ve ever seen me post, you know by now how much I abhor false info spreading on Misha’s tag.

DEFINITELY NOT misha collins. as soon as i saw the picture on my dash, my blood boiled. you know why? because that guy people think is misha is 100% the exact opposite of misha. he is the biggest asshole i have ever come across; he was my friend’s (the homura pictured) boyfriend, and he was emotionally (and at one point—physically) abusive to her. they are broken up now, thank god, but when i tried to get her to end her toxic relationship with him, he called me a whole slew of names, including but not limited to, bitch, slut, whore, delusional cunt, etc. he, still to this day, will only refer to me as a “hyper dyke”

seeing his face on my dash was enough to make my blood boil. seeing people mistake him for misha collins, who is so kind and nice and NOT the asshole this fucker is, made me want to throw my laptop out the window.

why is this post back that last part was debunked like twice 

#psa #Misha Collins #NOT Misha #abuse cw #slurs cw

luvscissors73:

heracratzarism:

#this makes me think of teenage Dean #on a hunt with his father #but John told him to be a look out and then wandered off #now Dean hears a noise in the woods #and he’s realizing that John left him to be bait (x)

THOSE TAGS

#oh no #Dean Winchester #that tag #John Winchester #John Winchester for ts #abuse cw #young!Dean #twink!Jensen

selfihauntyouithink:

lookatthesefreakinghipsters:

magical-muser:

yourfavoritedirector:

Guess what? I quit.

Supernatural 10.03 Soul Survivor: Sneak Peak [x]

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This is so exciting!!  I’ve always been fascinated by the way that Dean resented his father for how he raised them, but had repressed that anger and bitterness and that we’ve only ever seen glimpses of his true feelings through his proxies, such as shifter!Dean, Dream!Dean in 3x10, and so on (check out this great post by subjecttochange8 for more on the topic).  Except that demon!Dean isn’t really a proxy, he’s Dean, but is now capable of letting go of all that guilt and repression that have built up over the years, which reached toxic levels.  So now we’re finally clearly seeing how Dean really feels about John, his true resentfulness and anger at the damage that John did as a father.  Because he doesn’t care about the guilt, or about John,  or about Sam, or about being repressed.  He’s known, on some level, that what he went through wasn’t fair, but now he’s able to actually articulate it.  Which is amazing.  

#demon!Dean#is a healthier Dean#than the Dean we’ve come to know all these years#for he’s finally recognizing and doing something about#*his* needs#or at least trying to figure out what those needs are#without family obligations weighing him down (via)

#10x03 #Soul Survivor #spn spoilers #demon!Dean #the brothers Winchester #season 10 #John Winchester #John Winchester for ts #abuse cw #Dean Winchester #I'm wary of this episode because it's the deadly duo #I'll hold off watching until someone tells me it's safe to watch

zhgirlonfire:

Ok fine, you win. John was an asshole

#I see his face and I want to throttle him #John Winchester #abuse cw #Supernatural #John Winchester for ts
selfihateyouithink asked:
Dearest, could you reblog a different version of the Crowley/Dean post, one without the abuse apologia (no it is not more okay cos it's queer!) by deathbyspookyopen? I'd appreciate it.

absolutely. I’ll delete the other one (and reblog again without that last comment), kinda made me really uncomfortable anyway.

#selfihauntyouithink #selfihateyouithink #replies #abuse cw #Crowley and Dean

wyrm-o-lantern:

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS MY HUNCH WAS RIGHT ON THE MONEY. Crowley – ever the manipulator – uses an abuser’s tactic as old as gaslight lamps: replacing the closest competitor.

He invokes the old bitch/jerk taunt that Dean hasn’t used with his own brother since “Sam” broke it in a djinn-induced dream. He takes Dean out to bars, blusters harmless frustration at Dean’s lasciviousness, feeds him stunt demons to slake his bloodlust. He keeps Dean fed, keeps him close, treats him like a twisted, too-close facsimile of a brother. He’s presenting himself as exactly what Dean wants most – and then crows in Sam’s face about his manipulations paying off.

Crowley has become Dean’s siren.

#Crowley #Crowley and Dean #Dean Winchester #meta #10x01 #spn spoilers #season 10 #abuse cw

tr1llian:

dean-has-pie:

sherlockaways:

THIS WILL ALWAYS BE ONE OF MY FAVOURITE SUPERNATURAL SCENES AND NO ONE WILL EVER TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ME

THANK YOU BOBBY FOR EXISTING 

BOBBYYYYYY

#Bobby Singer #abuse cw #violence cw #long post #the road to Hell is queued with good intentions
#for the record jensen that means ''please stop'' #abuse cw #shenanigans #cockles #j2m #jibcon

My favorite pony is Fluttershy and I still taste the blood in my mouth from where a boy’s elbow met my cheek. He hit me hard enough that I hit the floor. His shirt had her shy face on it. I kissed the concrete and he kept walking.

I am five feet and two inches and I’ve been shoved to the side so many times that if you are going to look for me, always scan the edges of a crowd for a small girl with wide eyes and bruises on her knees. I like Fluttershy because she’s like me, she likes animals more than people and when things get too loud, she shuts down. I like her because I’m scared of most things even though I know I shouldn’t be.

I am filled to the brim of moments where My Little Pony started turning into ashes where once had been a harmless little girl’s show. Boys with Rainbow Dash on their hoodies have sexually harassed my underage sister. They have touched my hair and made comments to my brother about whether or not he and I were fucking. They have made me scared for the little girls in my second grade class who are old enough to search for pictures of their favorite show. A boy with a pony bag threatened to rape me because I said I was a feminist. I wasn’t even talking to him at the moment.

I have grown to fear the title “brony.” I use to love the idea that a show could teach everyone who watched it friendship and compassion. I loved the idea of an all-inclusive community.

My favorite video game is anything I can shoot things in. I have been playing since before the PS was a thing. Yet with more geek cred than my boyfriend, I have been stripped down by worse words than I care to repeat. I have been asked to do anything from make a sandwich to suck a dick to kill myself. The whole nerd culture rails against the idea that I can dress in flower print and still have played both Portal games more times than I can count. I’m not supposed to be a girl and be in their space. This is for boys, get away.

This is my petition for every girl who has been spat on for liking comics. This is my petition for every person who loved something hard and watched a group of angry men ruin it. This is for every man who flinches because they’ve taken his fandom from him and made it disgusting.

Step on them by giving them the exact shit they’ve been shoving down your throat since you were fifteen and admitted that you liked Bioshock. Ask them if they only like My Little Pony because their girlfriend does. Ask them if they know every word to every episode. Sneer at them when they dress up, ask them to get back behind the grill, catcall them. Let them know you’re done letting them walk all over what you love. Take it back. Take back everything they wrenched from your fingers. Make the spaces they poisoned become unsafe for them. Stop rolling your eyes and letting it happen. Stand up. Destroy them.

I am sick of privileged babies making every community cater to them. I am sick of their pickup lines and reddit threads and antifeminism. I’m sick of their memes and fedoras and resistance to women. I am sick of them.

Take it back. This is my petition. I’m calling it reappropriation.


— I’M SWEET AND SHY BUT TAKE SOMETHING FROM A LITTLE GIRL AND I’LL TAKE OUT YOUR HEART./// r.i.d  (via daetrimental)
#violence cw #abuse cw #blood #misogyny #sexual abuse tw #pedophilia tw #incest mention #? #important things #rape #bronies

amonitrate:

marmolita:

amonitrate:

suricattus:

well, yes.  

What, I was the only one who shouted “exactly!” at the screen when Mrs Tran said that?

That’s part of the communications disconnect I’ve been hammering away on.  Because Sam is thinking that they’re brothers, and brothers don’t do that.  But Dean’s mindset isn’t brother, no matter what he calls it.  It’s PARENT.  

John went to hell for Dean.  Dean went to hell for Sam.  Sam isn’t a parent, he can’t understand that level of love (and he shouldn’t).  But because of that, he can’t understand how to tell Dean “it’s okay, I’m grown up now, you have to let go” in the way most teenagers learn how to deal with their parents - and Dean has no experience of disengaging from his own father, who held onto him even after death…. (and so did Bobby, for that matter).

#spn meta   #dean and sam   #i’m taking issue with a direct parallel to linda because as much as dean acts in the capacity of sam’s parent   #dean is not sam’s parent   #dean was a parentified four year old and he sustains the damage of that abuse/neglect 30 years later   #i want to say i’ll take what i can get with spn and if they make this specific connection that i’ll consider it a win   #but it’s /still/ an incomplete connection to make   #:\ (thighholstered)

I guess the thing that hits me about this phrasing is that I would bet good money that John spent a lot of time telling Dean, “Your job is to take care of Sammy,” when he was a little kid.

Yup. Kids don’t just assign themselves jobs, and also whenever there’s a repeated wording like that, it’s almost like conditioning. 

IDK, I know it’s a hard distinction to make between parent and what position Dean occupies, but it’s important to recognize, because insisting that Dean is Sam’s parent flat out erases and replicates the dynamics of the specific form of child abuse that impacted Dean, and erases John Winchester’s abdication of his role of parent, and erases the fact that Sam is not Dean’s child. It carries the subtext of agency and power dynamics that do not actually exist.

There is not a direct parallel between Linda Tran and Dean because Dean was a pre-pubescent child when he was given the responsibility for a child’s caretaking. 

That is not being a parent. These two things are not the same.

Linda Tran’s role of parent to Kevin was not abuse. 

#meta #the brothers Winchester #John Winchester #abuse cw #Dean Winchester #Linda Tran #long post