nerdy-whovian:

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

valiantparadox:

#I bet John used to say that to Dean

why did you do that

excuse you, who gave you the right

amonitrate:

marmolita:

amonitrate:

suricattus:

well, yes.  

What, I was the only one who shouted “exactly!” at the screen when Mrs Tran said that?

That’s part of the communications disconnect I’ve been hammering away on.  Because Sam is thinking that they’re brothers, and brothers don’t do that.  But Dean’s mindset isn’t brother, no matter what he calls it.  It’s PARENT.  

John went to hell for Dean.  Dean went to hell for Sam.  Sam isn’t a parent, he can’t understand that level of love (and he shouldn’t).  But because of that, he can’t understand how to tell Dean “it’s okay, I’m grown up now, you have to let go” in the way most teenagers learn how to deal with their parents - and Dean has no experience of disengaging from his own father, who held onto him even after death…. (and so did Bobby, for that matter).

#spn meta   #dean and sam   #i’m taking issue with a direct parallel to linda because as much as dean acts in the capacity of sam’s parent   #dean is not sam’s parent   #dean was a parentified four year old and he sustains the damage of that abuse/neglect 30 years later   #i want to say i’ll take what i can get with spn and if they make this specific connection that i’ll consider it a win   #but it’s /still/ an incomplete connection to make   #:\ (thighholstered)

I guess the thing that hits me about this phrasing is that I would bet good money that John spent a lot of time telling Dean, “Your job is to take care of Sammy,” when he was a little kid.

Yup. Kids don’t just assign themselves jobs, and also whenever there’s a repeated wording like that, it’s almost like conditioning. 

IDK, I know it’s a hard distinction to make between parent and what position Dean occupies, but it’s important to recognize, because insisting that Dean is Sam’s parent flat out erases and replicates the dynamics of the specific form of child abuse that impacted Dean, and erases John Winchester’s abdication of his role of parent, and erases the fact that Sam is not Dean’s child. It carries the subtext of agency and power dynamics that do not actually exist.

There is not a direct parallel between Linda Tran and Dean because Dean was a pre-pubescent child when he was given the responsibility for a child’s caretaking. 

That is not being a parent. These two things are not the same.

Linda Tran’s role of parent to Kevin was not abuse. 

dudewheresmypie:

Didn’t you grow up pretty. Ugh, my skin was absolutely crawling when she said that.  Just look how uncomfortable it makes Dean.  Dean, who’s always got a comeback, even when if it’s utterly lame (well… you’re… pretty..). He doesn’t even say anything, can’t even give her a response. It just makes me think of this younger Dean, whose only goal in life was to be the man his father wanted him to become.  To be tough and masculine. Dean, who was cursed with his mother’s beautiful face. Who had to listen to the guys around the bar pool table call him a sweet, pretty little thing. But he didn’t care, because he’d hustle every penny right out of them, and tell himself that one day he’d be feared.  He’d become the son his father would be proud to call his own.  He’d be the most notorious hunter of them all. And he did just that. He grew up to be the Righteous Man, the man who fought the Devil and lived to tell the tale. But, as she reminds him, it wasn’t enough… If your daddy could see you now. And you can see it in his face, that little swallow, that haunted expression, that he knows she’s right. That if his father were still alive he wouldn’t be proud. He’d be just as disgusted as her. It’s a moment of shame and failure for Dean. Because in the end, he’s not the man his father wanted him to become.

But Dean! Don’t you see why? Because you are so much more. Because you grew up to fight for more than family. Come hell or high water, you fought for free will and what’s right. You’re not the perfect little soldier, Dean. You’re so much more.  And so much better.

deanwinchestersheart:

Dean + comforting his parents; “it’s okay.”

spent-it-on-ammo:

poetrytofish:

inheritance, warsan shire [x]

campinginpurgatory:

deanswiinchester:

Not before family.

No, but can we talk about the utterly dead look in Dean’s eyes as he sits bleeding in the back seat of his car listening to his dad tell his little brother that revenge is more important than him?

And can we take a moment to think how it must have felt when Sammy’s eyes flicked to him in the rearview mirror just before he told John no?

If at no other time, and even if he forgot it in the turmoil and betrayal of the years that followed…in that moment Dean understood that he wasn’t the only Winchester who loved his family more than the job.

teamfreesnuggles:

john winchester: father of the year

supermishamiga:

assbuttimpala:

i-believe-in-dean:

You know what I’m saying? I’m saying this is bullshit. If a sixteen year old Dean Winchester came face to face with a werewolf like that, he wouldn’t be alive. The werewolf wouldn’t grab him from the forearms. He or she would bite him and claw him till he was dead or too weak to move.

So yeah, this isn’t a werewolf. That’s just John.

Friendly reminder that Dean didn’t ever personally encounter a werewolf until Season 2, 11 years after this episode.

Oh hi there. Just wanted to show you guys something:

And once again, this gif is way too accurate: